May 14, 2014 :Wednesday
:Femsi came on 5/10/Sa for Mother's Day (5/11), and then took Anne with
:her to WV on 5/14/We, supposedly for a month, after which Anne was
:to fly with Gigi & and Cavit to Calif. on 7/1 via AA 75, return on 8/11 via
:AA 76 to WV, then to here. On 6/3 I made her reservation, which did not go
:thru (an omen), which I renewed for $607 on 6/4, Femsi's 70th BD. Just
:a few hours later, Femsi called to tell me that she took Anne to the
:hospital because she could not breathe well, that the doctors diagnosed
:this as congestive heart failure, which caused fluid in the lungs, like COPD.
:In short, Anne may never again return to me, may have to stay with Femsi,
:a major turning point in my life, with Belinda eventually moving in with me,
:a change in finances, etc.
July 21, 2014 :Monday
: At about 11am today Femsi was told that the biopsy results have shown
:that Anne has cancer in her right triceps, spread from somewhere else
:in her body. Since there is no treatment for her at her age, they will only
:comfort her thru drugs. Femsi did not ask how long she has. In view of
:this, they will also not treat her sugar. Her ailments began on June 4, 2014;
:see the 5/14/2014 note on the details.
Aug 21, 2014 :Thursday
:Left for WV tonight, driving thru the night, to see Anne. I stayed to
:8/30/Sa and returned to Florida, the next trip planned for sometime with
:Belinda at the end of the months, after my medical checkups on 9/23.
:Anne did not look as well as when I saw her the last time but still made
:an effort to depart with a smile when I was ready to return. By then,
:Amazon had delivered a review copy of my book to Femsi's and I
:showed it to Anne. She liked it.
:
:It was not to be. Femsi was having difficulty controlling Anne, who was
:getting up on her own--and fell at least once--taking out the oxygen tubes
:out of her nose, not taking medicine, etc. Femsi was concerned that if she
:could not control Anne, she would have to submit her to a nursing home,
:thus jeopardizing the $125,000 Anne intended for Belinda.
:
:On 9/7/Su, Femsi said I should come to help her with Anne. I had slept
:maybe from 4:30am to 7:30am when we were talking in the eve. She
:suggested that I get a good night's sleep and then come the next day.
:So I went to bed early, but could not sleep. Something urged me to get
:up and within 30 min. be on the road to WV at 8pm, a 13-hour drive.
:
:I arrived at Femsi's in the morning of 9/8/Mo. Indeed, Anne was
:not following Femsi's directions, refusing oxygen, other medicine, food,
:drinks, and pushing hard to get up on her feet. She seemed incoherent;
:I was not sure she even recognized me. No, Anne was not incoherent!
:She felt Femsi was prolonging her life with artificial means, and so was
:vehemently objecting, thus practically she was set to end her terminal
:condition. This way she would also avoid being taken to a nursing home,
:which might have jeopardized the $125,000 she left to Belinda.
:
:For 2 days Anne strained her heart (by pushing hard against Femsi and
:me), and by denying oxygen to her lungs. On the 9th, she took a
:sleeping position on her bed; Femsi was watching TV; I laid down on the
:sofa, but became restless. At 10:40, Femsi went in to see to Mother, and
:screamed: "Sirman, Anne is not breathing." I rushed in. Indeed, our Cici
:Kiz was gone. Femsi called the hospice; a social worker and nurse came;
:Femsi and the nurse washed Anne and dressed her; the social worker
:called for Cremation Services; we decided on the local Giffin Funeral
:Home. They came and loaded Anne on a stretcher, and at 1:30am on
:Sep. 10, I saw Anne's for the last time, being loaded into a hearse...
:
:Femsi and I collected Anne's ashes on the 11th (Th); Gigi and Cavit
:arrived on the 12th. I showed her my book, in the final stages of being
:published by Amazon, which Anne had also seen on my previous visit,
:and I left that night and arrived in Florida the next day, exhausted.
:Femsi and I made arrangements to meet in Fernandina on the 26th,
:along with Belinda, to drive down to Miami and on the 27th/ 28th (Su),
:pour Anne's ashes to Miami channel, as Anne and I had Father's ashes
:16 years earlier, with some flowers and (this time) 4 balloons . . .
9/9/2014 Wednesday
:Anne died today at 10:20pm at Femsi's home; I saw her last being
:loaded into a hearse at 1:20am on Sep. 10, 14 (Th). She has graced
:Celayirs (and the world) for 97 years, 6 months, 8 days, 22 hours and
:40 minutes. To us she was "annelerin annesi" (Mother of all mothers),
:"Tompi(sh)" (an endearment), and "cici kiz" (cute girl).
